Rationalizing reward sounds like:
Depending on our environment, we likely learned early on that we must earn rewards. In our homes and/or in school, certain achievements meant certain rewards in the form of gifts, accolades, praise, attention and more.
As adults, we might carry the same conditioning for various reasons—seeking motivation, praise and attention, expectations of self, and so on. We might even call ourselves “overachievers” and celebrate success only if we “worked hard” or “struggled” for it.
However, if we only accept rewards following the completion of tasks, we are conditioning our capacity for celebration, joy, relief and rest.
Instead of “I earned this,” practice “I deserve this.”
There is value in our process, our efforts and attempts that are worthy of celebration too.
Written by: Elaine Raif, ASW#111237
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